Memory loss has zit with regards to growing old. It doesn’t mean that many of forget things like where we place the keys, failing to consider the date of our own wedding anniversary, forgetting the precise date of our children’s birthdays, but these samples of lapse of memory aren’t specific to aging, only. Let’s be honest, the quantity of items you must do generally seems to expand with available time. I recall the late and great Joan Sutherland stating that, after her retirement through the stage, she was really busy she did not know how she ever found time and energy to sing. It is a shame that Joan by no means learnt to ‘Edit-out’ and, consequently, ‘paid the price’ for not taking-on this skill.
Claiming you ‘forgot’ gives aging a ‘bad name’: ‘Dad didn’t do that due to the fact he’s getting old and forgetful’. Or, ‘You’ll must excuse Mum, she’s less than with-it’. [highight] Editing-out offers a far-better alternative.[/highlight]
It’s impossible to perhaps aspire to take-on all the stuff asked of them-age seems to have almost no (or nothing) to do with it! This is a far-better solution to ‘edit-out; and say, so up-front. Each of us must take into account and choose those activities that many of us desire to be involved with and those things that we now have absolutely no way of completing-or inclination to achieve.Used well, editing-out is an concept and indication of positive self-image or high self-esteem. That’s, you value your self as well as your time that allows you to say, ‘No!’ and ‘Edit-out’. And, you know what? Most of the people will thank you for level of up-frontness. Because of you, they are fully aware where they stand, along with the must find another person, not a last-minute replacement once you pull-out later and neglect to deliver.
A friend of mine is a parish priest. The constant demands on his time might take him out of the principal motivation for pursuing his passion in the first-place-if he permitted those needs to, that is. Instead, he has end up being the master of editing-out. Actually, he makes use of the words ‘Edit-out’ instead of ‘No’ when decreasing requests from pregnant favour-seekers. With respect to the request, he may decline by stating, ‘I’m sorry, but I’ve had to edit-out your request. It is advisable to approach (whomever) who could possibly help’. Consider the demands on your own time. Odds are, like Joan Sutherland, those needs increase with available time .And these requests could keep increasing; unless, obviously, you begin editing-out.
There is no problem in saying I forgot something, but there is a problem if you feel bad about it! If so, the phrase could be replaced, but the real key in healthy aging is positive thinking. My strong advice – defeat your anger. It could be cause of many people problems.
P.S. Also read this article regarding aging in a healthy manner.